Your Relationship With Your Essence

Penina Shepherd, our Founder & MD, was delighted to be asked to be the first guest blogger on WayFounder's website which is a place where working women could come together and talk about issues that were specific to them. Below is a copy of the blog as published on http://wayfinderwoman.com/ 

Your essence

So this is what I believe.  I have seen it proven over and over again in my life, as well as those around me, and I believe it to be true in relation to all aspects of your life such as:  relationship, future, money, business and life in general. That is the aspects of your essence.

Your essence manifestation is not an absolute truth

Your current position with regard to your essence, namely your position in life, is a direct manifestation of your perception.

There is no 'absolute truth' about how much money you should have, the kind of business you may run or how your future will be shaped. If you have one client who say they will pay you £1000 for your services, then that is an absolute truth only in how much she will pay, not how much money you can have.

So what determines the position of your essence in your life?

I can hear you say economic climate, upbringing, money, contacts, having children and the list goes on. These are all important contributing factors- but that is all they are. They are not 'absolute truths' because if they were, then no one's essence would be thriving in a bad economic climate, or if they had a tough up-bringing, or if they are a parent.  But when look around, some aspects of people's essence are thriving in those conditions.

So what do they have that others don't?

Very simply- a better dictionary.

There is a fundamental difference between people who are satisfied and those who are not.  Here are four examples of a satisfied/unsatisfied dictionary:

Who do you think is likely to build a more successful business? The person who thinks it is a very competitive market or the one who believes there is plenty to go around? What actions and decisions will they each make that are based on those perceptions?

Each person sees their definition of their essence as an absolute truth and imposes their own rules, limits and laws about what they can or cannot have with regard to it, and that dictates how youressence will manifest in practice.   'Surely, I can only earn this much for my skills' - but there is no law which says that (I have checked…)!

These thoughts permanently reside in you and create 'habits' which then become your reality.   So a mere thought or observation turns, in our mind, into a fact! It becomes our reality, one we have created and there are plenty of examples (especially when it comes to money):

• Money doesn't grow on trees;
• Money is the root of all evil;
• You have to work hard for the money;
• I am not talented enough to earn that much/ grow my business;
• It is not fair that I will have so much money when there are so many people with no money at all;
• I don't like how rich people are and if I become rich I will become one of them;

If these are the thoughts and observations, what kind of mind-set will she have? What kind of habits she will develop based on these beliefs? What decisions will she make?

The power of our thoughts

Thoughts      mind-set       habits          reality         decision making

If the way your essence is manifested in your life is the direct outcome of your relationship with it, and if you are unhappy with that outcome, then, surely, 'all' you need to do is change the thoughts you have about youressence.

If you are satisfied with how the essence is manifested in your life, then don't read on… you have created the absolute truth that works for you and makes you happy- nothing else should be changed.

But if you are not satisfied, you have a big challenge ahead of you as changing habits is one of our toughest challenges.

So welcome new relationship into your life

Ask yourself (don't be shy no one is listening and you will not be judged) -

• what is the financial reality you want to live in, however grand?
• how do you want your life to look?
• What kind of relationships do you want to have with the people around you?
• how do you wish your business to look/be/operate?
• what would your future look like?

Remember there are no laws as to what the answer can or can't be- it can only be what you want. Then ask yourself, what is it in your thoughts, mind-set and habits that contradict that reality?

Make a deal with yourself today- what one change can you make with your relationship with one part of your essence that you are unsatisfied with?  If you could make just one change- what would it be? What thought pattern will you need to adopt to bring about the change?

Can you let that thought in?

I dare you …